When I became a stay at home mom a few years ago, it came a shock to me how much I missed adult interaction. I am sure many stay at home moms, or moms in general feel this. They focus so wholeheartedly on their children that they miss out on their adult friendships sometimes. I realized how important those adult friendships were. I realized how I thrived when I had interaction with other women, or men, who had similar goals and interests and lives. I realized this was a need.
Out of this need grew my weekly coffee group. The group has evolved with an ebb and flow over the past few years. It began with just two and evolved into three, then four, five, back to three, sometimes two. It grows it shrinks depending on peoples lives and availability, but the coffee is always there hot waiting for some coffee talk.
We moms discuss many things in our weekly coffee group. Our kids are usually the primary source of discussion. Sometimes we talk about sex, or money, cooking, crafts or weight loss. Whatever the topic each woman has something to share. Each woman has their own perspective and life experience to add to the topic. Sometimes, there are times when one of us will simply need a shoulder (or three) to cry on. I discuss these women very carefully because they are all so close to my heart.
These mornings saved my life I tell you, or at least made it bearable at times.
They saved me when I had not slept through the night in months, I was covered in baby puke, my oldest was obsessed with Harry Potter, my husband was a workaholic and I hadn’t had a shower in days. These mornings made me want to get up, shower put on some lipstick and be excited for my day. They broke the monotony. They gave the promise of conversation that consisted of more than three words. The gave comradery.
Not only did they offer those beautiful gifts, but they also gave a bit of motivation. Our coffees rotated. You would host once, then it would pass on to the next gal. The host would provide a pot of coffee and tasty little breakfast for the mommies and snacks for the kids. Let me just say that there were many times my house got an extra dose of love before my coffee girls would come for the morning. No one wants a group of girls to think they live in a pigstye. This extra bit of motivation did my house a favor. That being said, we all were mommies, so we understood when there was crayon on the wall or applesauce on the table. It happens.
Another aspect that I adore about my coffee mornings is how different people can be, yet still have so much in common. There are stay at home moms, working moms, part time moms. There are creative types, organic types, liberal types and conservatives. Some were pregnant, some had newborns, some had toddlers, some of the children were in elementary school. It didn’t matter. We all have our beliefs, we all have our own parenting styles and choices, yet we all have one thing in common, we love our kids. We are each trying to raise them in the best way we can.
Not only do we offer each other company and conversation. We offer advice, and love and laugther.
There were weeks, when life with a baby was so challenging that this one coffee morning a week was a shining light for me to look forward to. I knew that no matter how little sleep I had gotten, or how many times I had to reprimand my oldest child, I would get a kind word and a smile from my coffee girls.
I encourage any mother, but especially a stay at home mom, to find a group of moms to socialize with. If you have friends that are moms, give them a call and set a regular weekly date with them and their kids. If you don’t feel comfortable doing that hook up with one of the local MOPS groups. I have never personally joined a MOPS group, but I understand that there are more than a few in the area and are a great way to meet other moms if you don’t already know any. All you need for some great mom time is a bit of coffee and bit of conversation to brighten your entire week.
Go here for a national listing of all MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) groups.
I write this post in love for my coffee girls past and present and future. You mean so much to me!
About Author Leah Otto
Leah Otto: Leah grew up in Western Colorado. Wife of local business owner and mother of two amazing boys. She is a self proclaimed busy body who goes nonstop. Whether it is a DIY project, a children’s party, a great meal to cook, or a fun craft project with friends you can be sure that Leah will have her hands in at least two at any given time. She plans children’s birthday parties through local company Giggle Tree Events, and blogs on Mommyinthemountains.com. Fun with her kids is always at the top of her agenda and loving the good times that our lovely Colorado life makes possible.